Speaking of baby mamas….
Of course, I can’t wait to see the movie.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0871426/
Archive for April 17th, 2008
17
Apr
08
Tina Fey and Amy Poehler
17
Apr
08
baby mamas vs. non-baby mamas
I’m making a conscious effort to get emails out to Kathy more frequently (see previous blog entry).
I just received an email from her and I had to highlight stuff that she wrote. Kathy has an amazing way of wording things so you go, “that’s exactly what I meant!” – must be her Marketing background.
“…my eggs are mine, and yours are yours, and I am always happy when sperms and eggs meet successfully – it gives me hope. Nobody gets pregnant just to show someone else up. And one person getting pregnant doesn’t mean there are less pregnancy opportunities for other people….”
Kathy and I have had many discussions around how people in this world seem to think it is quite acceptable to ask about baby plans pretty much immediately upon a married couple’s return from their honeymoon. The Honeymoon return occurred many years ago for both of us… so you can imagine the number of times we’ve fielded the question.
Guess a couples’ sexual behavior and activity is now a public topic for discussion. Not to mention, how does anyone know that the couple hasn’t just miscarried, or perhaps learned that they are infertile? I could see myself bursting out in tears if that were the case.
In addition, we’ve noticed some interesting behavior amongst the women in our network of friends.
The ones who have gotten pregnant and had babies, seem to have risen to a new level of existence than us non-baby mamas. These gals meet up for playdates and have their own secret language that revolves around their respective babies, breast feeding, elite preschools, etc, etc.
Olive branch emails and voicemail messages sent by the non-baby mamas to the baby mamas go unreturned. After all, we are lowly non-baby mamas…. we certainly don’t deserve the respect of a response. Silly me!
It will be interesting to see how things progress as baby mamas children grow up and non-baby mamas become baby mamas….
Guess the moral of the story is we are all evolving, constantly changing individuals, and friends come and go.
I am thinking that my true friends will still be worth sending olive branch emails to when I’m old and gray.
17
Apr
08
Different forms of therapy
My friend Kathy found my blog the other day. I got an email from her that read, “I see now why I haven’t been getting emails that reveal your deepest thoughts as often, cause you’ve been blogging instead”. DOH! Busted.
I emailed her right back to say, “not to worry, Blogging sure ain’t no replacement for YOU!” (what a shmoozer I am, huh?) But really, and I said this to her… I have really enjoyed my past month or so of blogging. It’s a good break and gives me something else to focus on – besides work – during the day.
I made a promise to myself to create at least one blog entry each weekday. I find myself thinking about what I should write while on my daily walk with Lucy… Much of the time I write pure crap, but I try to mix it up with postings that are meaningful or speak from the heart.
The title of my blog is “random thoughts from a random mind”. Seriously, ideas and topics pop into my brain at random times, and it’s great to be able to get these thoughts out and onto the great information highway.
I really have Ayelet to thank for my “new form of therapy”. If it wasn’t for her inspirational and pretty amazing Blog, I would not have had the motivation to get mine back in shape.
The reality is my email conversations with Kathy are another form of therapy for me. Over the past 10 years or so, Kathy and I have had an email correspondence that is truly special. I’m talking multiple paragraphs at a time. Sometimes we’d write back and forth to each other 2 or 3 times a day… now we’re lucky to get 2 or 3 emails a week from each other.
Back then, we were single, so our discussions revolved around boys, happy hours, dating rules, etc. Now as two happily married and childless women, our conversations are a bit different. Nowadays we talk about the baby vs. non-baby divide we are starting to notice amongst our group of friends, our careers, and how we don’t have nearly as much time these days to write to each other (see…. it’s not just me and my blog!)
I will always treasure this relationship I have with a great friend who I do not get a chance to see often enough, but I always know what’s going on in her life and vice versa.
Hopefully this entry doesn’t fall into the “crap” category! : )
17
Apr
08
Definition of a friend
I’ve been browsing Wikipedia today, trying to find some inspiration to write about. Here is a good definition of friendship. My great friends definitely meet the criteria. When’s National Friendshp Day? Does that exist?
Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more humans. This article focuses on the notion specific to interpersonal relationships. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other’s company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them. Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating on a consistent basis:
the tendency to desire what is best for the other,
sympathy and empathy,
honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one’s counterpart
mutual understanding.
17
Apr
08
Say Anything
My boy Brian Murphy (those of you regulars KNOW all about my girly crush on this man… Pete knows not to worry, it’s just a girly crush, never to be acted upon… jeez, it’s not like he would give me the time of the day ANYWAYS, calm down people).
Where was I?
Oh yes, this morning on the “top 6 news stories” on KNBR, Murph talked about how these days, you just ain’t nobody unless you have a stalker.
C’mon now, how many times have you heard in recent months of celebrities and their stalkers… suing their stalkers, getting restraining orders on their stalkers, etc… ?? it is getting a bit old.
BUT of course, when Murph talks about it, it sounds really cool, exciting, fun and noteworthy. I want a stalker too, dammit!
Today Murph revealed that John Cusack is the newest celebrity to report a stalker.
HELLO? has anybody seen, “Say Anything”? If I knew where that boy lived, hell, I might be a stalker myself.
The 30 second story on KNBR really got me thinking about John Cusack. Murph talked about how he thought the female stalker could quite possibly be his OWN wife who apparently has a similar taste in men as I do…. L.O.L.
Murph’s wife (who, BTW, sounds like a strong, smart woman who I would probably get along marvelously with), stated that the appeal of Cusack is that he’s not the super handsome, hot, got it together guy (a la George Clooney), but instead, he’s the reclusive, silent, and a bit socially inexperienced guy.
The kinda guy women feel CERTAIN that they (and only THEY of course) can bring out of his shell.
I can’t speak for all of you gals, but what woman would not melt upon looking out their window to see John Cusack standing defiantly outside their childhood home with a ginormous boombox blasting, “In Your Eyes”???
You are so LYING if you say NO.
