I talked today with a friend about how people would make things about themselves, especially when they don’t feel good anyway. This brought me back to this post I’ve read yesterday. I hope you don’t mind me saying this, because it’s possible that you know already:). But we tend to forget those things. I really feel with you. Though I’m not going through the same experiences, but I know how it is when you have things in your life that you desire badly, but you can’t have at this moment, and it tends to drive you crazy once in a while, because it seems so unfair.

Don’t make this about you (I hope this is the right phrase:). I was looking around on your blog. You’re a great woman. This is something you’re going through.

YOU are not childless. You current circumstances are. YOU are not inadequate. Your body has some difficulties, as another body has other difficulties, so you’re somtimes feeling like that. But this says nothing about your character or you being a full and deserving woman.

YOU, from what I read and see:) are intelligent, creative, funny, active, very kind, smart, special and very pretty.

I hope you’llhave a relaxing weekend. I for sure will stop by again. You’re a pretty good writer. Take care:)

I have heard so many stories of women who have gone through what you are going through, and through miracles or modern science, there are many many wonderful success stories. I just know someday we’ll be talking about rember when you thought this would never happen while rocking your lil one to sleep. Just keep remembering that when there’s a will there’s a way!

I know it’s got to be difficult, I truly truly understand. Although Aust is a wonderful kid, I always wanted at least one more, and over the years after watching one friend after another pop out baby after baby, I began to feel.. inadaquate. I began to get frustrated with myself, my husband, with everything. It even began to take away from the wonderful things that I do have in my life.

I was so jealous of these “fertile” women and I would think I’m as good of a mother as those other women are… possibly even a better mom, and certainly more caring then some of the baby making machines that seemed to surround me, why was I not able to have another, when they seem to be shooting kids out like they were pop gun rounds?

Life can be so unfair at times… Keep the faith and I know you will be an excellent mother when the time comes.

P.S. Lucy and Beethoven think you are the greatest mommy in the world! and your adoring nephew loves you so much, he thinks of you as a second mom (just a lot cooler than me)

Hugs!

I have had to put up with some very hurtful comments by friends through the years. Most recently, a friend who was having a challenging time with their teenage kids told me she was jealous of me being single and not having to deal with kids. That stung. But we all have to find our inner strength to deal with people who are self-centred in their own reality. Just continue being the wonderful person you are and we’ll see what life will give us. I am just thankful to my health right now and I know in my heart that I will have many children in my life at some point. They many not be biological but I hope to work with many. Keep the faith! And thanks for this wonderful post.

Hugs!